The old folks like to “fight their children” experts say they reflect the attitude of the door

The old man "off single" began to "fight children"

Nowadays, dating is no longer a patent for young people. The old people who are looking forward to the "Dawn Love" have also joined the ranks of blind date. There are many information on the elderly in the matchmaking center. They pay more attention to the reality when they are blind, and the house, the pension, Healthy body level... These are not the issues that the elderly people care about when they date each other. There is a son or daughter who is out of reach. It is the magic weapon to get old people out of singles.

Old man: It is easier to have a good son and daughter

The three-month old Wang Laohan, who is now 63 years old and who lives in the Xili River on the Xili River, entered the “marriage hall” three months after the closing date. Speaking of this marriage, Wang Laohan sighed again and again. "Single-year-old has never found a suitable partner. This time, because of prostitutes, I can successfully establish a family." Wang Laohan told reporters with a smile, 25 years ago, his ex-wife was involved in a car accident. After his death, he nurtured his young daughter alone, and during the same period he also wanted to find a suitable object to become a family. However, when the other person was 30 years old and was still attending school, he neither worked nor married and rejected Wang Laohan. .

In the previous year, Dr.Daughter had already graduated from her career and successfully became an executive of a foreign company in Beijing. Because he had been working in Beijing and looked at his father without any care. She hoped that her father could find a husband to take care of, and she was relieved. With the encouragement of her daughter, Wang Laohan again took up the courage to kiss the pro-time, and loved Mrs. Ge at first sight. It turned out that Ge Laotai's daughter is also a graduate of a prestigious school, is a surgical chief physician in a hospital in the city, "both daughters are contending, is an important prerequisite for us to come together." Wang Laohan said.

Zhou Laohan, 67, is suffering from the fact that she has never been singled out. He told reporters that his own conditions are not bad. There are a lot of pensions every month, and there are two houses in the family. The reason that he has been unable to get out of singles for so many years is that he has a disgruntled son.

"My son is not too young, but she does not have a stable job. I hope to find a partner in my old age and support each other. But the old lady introduced by her relatives and friends knows that my son has nothing to do. Do not want to contact me, so every blind date ended in failure." Zhou old man said.

Children: We are "helped" very helpless

Ms. Zhang, 40, told reporters that in the near future, he is looking for his father to find a suitable wife. On the one hand, he can take care of his father’s daily life. On the other hand, he can also reduce her burden. Ms. Zhang is the only child and the responsibility of caring for her father falls on her. However, Ms. Zhang’s child is also a critical period of education. He is unable to take care of his father. Therefore, after consulting his father’s consent, Ms. Zhang arranged for her father to arrange for blind dates.

"The old man blind date is not as simple as a young man." Ms. Zhang talked about his father's blind date and looked sad. "A few days ago, a colleague introduced a friend's mother to his father. After two people met, they were talking. When the old lady learned that her father had only one daughter and was just an ordinary worker, she said something that didn't feel right."

Ms. Zhang said that at first she did not pay too much attention to it. She felt that the old lady really thought it was inappropriate for her father. After a few blind dates, Ms. Zhang knew the truth behind this, that is, the old ladies thought that the man The conditions of her daughter cannot give them a sense of security. “It made me very helpless. I didn't think that in this “fighting” era, the old folks are all fighting for their children. Could it be that the conditions of our children will affect the happiness of the elderly? I really can't figure it out.” Say.

Experts: Older people pay more attention to conditions

Regarding the phenomenon of “old children” in the elderly, Professor Han from the Humanities College of Gansu Agricultural University said that in addition to considering the conditions of the other party, the economic conditions of the children are also their key thresholds. The superior conditions for children are undoubtedly the old couple’s remarriage. An important guarantee is that, on the one hand, the elderly do not have to worry about their children's livelihood in the latter years. On the one hand, they can avoid property disputes arising after remarriage.

“In the end, the elderly people are blind and they want to have a happy life instead of adding burdens or troubles to their existing lives. When they are blindly “fighting for children”, they are essentially looking for a “door to door” and looking for people with similar conditions. This situation is not an exaggeration for the elderly, but if it is overly critical, it is very likely to miss a good marriage,” said Professor Han.

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